So your birthday’s right around the corner, and mom, dad, grandma, and everybody else is asking the magic question, “What do you want for your birthday this year?”
Your mind starts to flood with thoughts of toys, bikes, video games, and gift cards. You make your list, cross your fingers and ask yourself, how can I make sure I get everything on my wish list?
Well the answer is simpler than you think. All it takes is 3 steps:
Ask For what you need
Ask For what you want
Make sure you’ve earned it
Ask For What You Need
The things you need make for the best gifts because they solve a problem for both you and the person giving you the gift. You’ll have something you need, and the person giving it to you doesn’t have to worry about getting you something you won’t use. It’s a win-win!
When trying to think of things you need, think of these:
Clothes: If it’s wintertime and you don’t have a warm coat or gloves, you should definitely put them on your wish list. Same goes if you need new cleats for sports, or a new swimsuit for the summer.
Your Extra Curricular Activities: If you play a sport or music, see if your gear needs updating or replacing. New sheet music for piano? New If you need any new equipment, uniforms, or anything else, make sure to put them on your wish list.
School: Do you need more school supplies? What about books or uniforms? If you need things for school, you should definitely ask for them.
Know What You Want
Here’s the fun part. Video games, skateboards, dolls, and gift cards may not qualify as needs, but they definitely fall under the wants category. When you have a clear idea of what you want, it makes things easier for you to make sure you don’t get any of the things you don’t want.
When thinking of the things you want, keep these things in mind:
Be Specific: Do you want a video game? Make sure you let people know what kind of game you want, or even better, know the exact game. Same goes for anything else you want. Try to at least let people know what genre, style, color, size, or brand you want. This helps them have a clear idea of what to shop for, and this gives you a better chance of getting you what you want.
Make Sure You’ll Use Them: You may really want a brand new karaoke machine, but will you really use it? Maybe once or twice while you’re excited, but odds are that you’ll eventually get bored and never touch it again. Ask for things that you’ll use often, and make the most of your gifts!
Think of Your Hobbies: This almost guarantees that you’ll use your gifts. Do you like arts and crafts? Try asking for an origami kit or a paint set. Or a new racing game if you’re interested in cars. Base your gifts on things you’re already interested in, and they’ll never go to waste!
Make Sure You’ve Earned It
And this is the tricky part.
Getting gifts on your birthday may seem like it’s your right, but it isn’t. It’s a privilege. Making sure that you’ve been on your best behavior will not only help your family and friends feel better about giving you gifts, you’ll feel much better about yourself because you’ll know you’ve earned them, and you’re reaping the rewards for all of your hard work!
Here are some important ways to make sure you earn your gifts:
Do Your Best in School: Good grades and good behavior in the classroom will help you not only set yourself up for a great future, but it’ll make people want to reward you for doing well. Make sure you’re doing your homework, studying hard, and on your best behavior in the classroom!
Do Your Chores: When you get home from school, the next thing on your to-do list should be your chores. Taking out the trash, washing the dishes, and walking the dog may seem like a drag, especially after working so hard at school, but trust me, you’ll feel much better when it’s not hanging over your head. It’ll be over with, and you’ll have the rest of the day to relax!
Ask Nicely: You’ve probably seen kids who don’t know how to ask properly for things they want. They yell, they scream, they demand, and they stomp their feet... Don’t be that kid.
When you ask for your gifts, always keep the other person’s feelings in mind, even though yes, it’s your birthday. Never ask for things in a way that can make others feel guilty, sad, or angry, and keep in mind that everyone isn’t going to be able to get you everything. Be understanding, stay polite, and don’t be selfish, and you’ll certainly win more friends, even if you don’t get more gifts.